She is a Lake
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Words in honor of my dad for his birthday, a man who believed in the inspiring power of water. Every time we crossed Old Man River, the Mighty Mississippi, he would pull over to the side of the road to make us gaze in wonder, which was often when you live in Kansas and your grandparents live in Wisconsin. He beloved there was a spirit in the water from which to learn. Maybe it took me a bit longer to absorb its knowledge, but I’m starting to understand, Dad.

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She has heard them talk of the oceans where great waters ever change from the pull of the tide. She knows of the mighty Mississippi just blocks from her shores, carving the landscape with its strength. She watches the creek in constant motion, dipping in and out of her source, carrying life to new places. 

But she is none of those things. She is not changing or strong or productive. She is merely a lake. While other waters dance, she is forced to stand still. 

On hard days, she feels tethered to the land and its boundaries, trapped by her limitations, lost in her humble nature. But this is how she is made. It is all that she can do. So she learns how to welcome the season as it comes. 

The summers are easy. This is when the sun shines and invites them to play. This is when they splash in her joy, find relief in her cool waters. This is when they say she is at her best. 

Winter is harder. This is when days grow shorter, nights colder. They don’t come to her shores like they once did. She can not move against the winter freeze like the ocean. She can not fight it like the river. She can not run from it like the creek. She must simply stand still and let the weather overcome her matter. 

But as it turns out, this is a very good thing. 

It won’t happen right away, the suspension will come on gradually, first the shallow parts, then deeper and deeper, layer by layer, molecules crystallized in time. And with every dark and darker night, like the ocean, the lake will change. Like the river, the lake will grows stronger. And soon, like the creek, she will move life. They will come to her curly edges, slow at first, cautious yet curious. And when it is time, when she has shown them, and herself, who she can be, she will support their weight. She changed. These changes made her strong. Strong enough to move them across her surface like dancers. 

And in this, she will discover, she is not tethered to the land like she once thought. She is home in it. For when it is light, she is a shelter, a communion, a joy. And when it is dark, she changes for them, stands strong, and holds them up. 

This winter, if you look careful below her surface, you’ll notice crystals sparkling in the light. That’s laughter you see, joy capsulated in time. Reminders of hope, tethered in her arms, ready to release come spring. 

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This post was written as part of a blog hop with Exhale—an online community of women pursuing creativity alongside motherhood, led by the writing team behind Coffee + Crumbs. Click here to read the next post in this series "Tethered to Hope.”
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Homemade Grenadine + Other Cocktail Gift Ideas
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I went to a Christmas party back in 2010 that I still think about today. It was for a friend I had just met in a leadership organization, and to be perfectly honest I couldn’t tell you to this day what her name was. But I can tell you about that party.

This was in the early days of the Mad Men show, when the mid-century modern style was all the mood. The party theme was taken straight from the hit show and guests were encouraged to come dressed for the part. The couple lived in a gorgeous modern high rise building with windows that stretched along the walls over looking Lake Michigan in downtown Chicago. I was a Northside girl so the parties with my friends were spent crammed into bars or tiny walk up condo buildings. Seeing the city in this way felt like stepping onto the set of Mad Men, classy and cool.

I don’t remember what we drank. I don’t remember what we ate. But I remember how it felt to hear the crooning sounds of Frank Sinatra and Bing Crosby, seeing all the guests in their skinni ties, and feeling like the fancy party goer I always imagined I would be when I was a grown up. Ever since that night I’ve been wanting to recreate that kind of Christmas party scene. I wanted to serve appetizers with those little frilly cocktail sticks. I wanted everyone to be dressed like Don and Betty Draper. And I wanted to serve only the best and brightest classic cocktails.

Don’t worry, this is not when I tell you about this great party I am hosting this weekend. Unless you consider ordering pizza delivery and watching Home Alone while my children crawl all over me on the couch and then we pass out by 8:30 a party, than CHEERS!

But I can also tell you just because we can’t have big parties right now doesn’t mean we can’t feel like our best classy selves. If I look back, I can see that this party, and the whole Mad Men vibe, was the early emergence of my love of cocktails. That Christmas I gifted Mike a glass decanter set my mom found in her basement, a cast off from a mom of one my dad’s high school buddies. We filled it with two spirits we thought Don would approve of, Bourbon and Gin. And then on Friday nights, we started skipping the boxed wine and the cases of Goose Island for Manhattans for him and Tom Collins for me in our humble little condo overlooking the L train. We made a party of our Friday night frozen pizza. It wasn’t a high-rise and it wasn’t finely dressed guests, but it felt special.

All that is to say, you can set yourself up for special, too, even in this quieter holiday season.

It starts with a festive syrup that you can easily make yourself, gift to others, and use in many cocktails. Grenadine. This isn’t the same thing as that stuff in the neon red jar with cherries. I always thought it was. No, this homemade syrup is so much more than that. And it’s rich color and taste is the festive you need this year. It makes a big batch so share with neighbors or co-workers. It works great in mocktails, too, so kids can have fun with it.

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Homemade Grenadine

adapted from the Twelve Bottle Bar

1 part (2 cups) Pure Pomegranate Juice (POM or other brand)
2 parts (4 cups) Sugar
Peel of one orange*

  1. Heat the juice and orange peel over a very low flame and mix in the sugar in batches until it is completely dissolved and the syrup is clear.

  2. Remove 3/4 of syrup from the stove orange peel. Heat the remaining 1/4 over a medium flame until it is reduced by half. When this is done, add to the rest of the syrup.

  3. Allow to cool before bottling. Store in a cool place for up to 6 months

    *The original recipe includes orange blossom water but I think adding orange peel is good enough for my taste, and much easier to find in your grocery pick up order.

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I am also including some of my favorite cocktail making items that make great gifts, in case someone you know could use a little something for their stocking, ahem. * Winky face emoji. *

This is apparently the best peeler for making garnishes. I say apparently because I don’t have one. Just leaving that there.

This bar spoon is a must. You will feel so fancy when you figure out how to twirl properly.

Bitters (my favorite brand) are a fun way to add a pop of flavor to a drink.

I have a cocktail idea I need to try this winter and this ice sphere is what I need to make that happen.

You know how I feel about garnishes and these cocktail picks would be fantastic and fun. These are cute too.

Save the neon cherries for the kids. Get these for you.

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And if you need more inspiration for what to mix up, don’t forget to follow along with my cocktail adventures on my Rachel on the Rocks account.

Cheers to a festive, albeit quiet, holiday from my party to yours!

Five Gift Ideas You Might Need One Day

Every year around this time, I come up with a few new ideas for gift giving that I think are so lovely and worth sharing. But then I stop myself because it feels so overwhelming to throw yet another idea your way. “I’ll do it next year” I say to myself, which is also going to be the title of my memoir. Narrator: she will never remember.

If this year has taught us anything (I also realize I have said this many times this year for many different things but we can learn more than one thing, friends, we just can) it is that Right Now is a much better time than Next Year. 

So here I go, offering a few various gift ideas that bring me joy. Maybe they will bring joy to you too. Or maybe you will pin them alongside all those other things you pinned and never did. Or maybe you will remember this next year just at the right time that you need them. Or maybe me sharing an idea will allow you to think of your own idea. Inspiration is contagious like that. 

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The gift for your friend group

I purchased myself a beautiful piece of printable artwork as a teacher gift this year on Black Friday (yes, I made buying your own teacher gift a thing.) I wanted a simple way to hang it and stumbled upon these very simple, VERY affordable poster hangers for $6. Yes $6! The whole thing was so lovely and easy to pull together I decided it needed to be shared. The frames also work great for kids artwork, particularly for those grandparents who think anything your children do is a masterpiece. They click together with magnets making it easy to switch out as needed. You could continue to add a new print to the collection each year, or maybe even gift seasonal prints for them to rotate. The options are endless here. There are some beautiful pieces of art to be found on the internet and an easy way to support small businesses. I think this would make a wonderful gift for your girlfriends, your book club, your parents, or yourself, for that matter. 

Here is a list of businesses I love or others recommended to me to find great prints. Some do digital downloads while others mail their prints. If you have a favorite business, will you share it with me? I would love to continue to add to this list.

Lou Lou Art Studio / Sag Moon Paper Co / Zoe Prose / Studio Paper Stories / Flying Edna / Little Truths Studio / With One Line / Emma Make Studio / The Paira Birds / Brooklyn Swenson / Jenn Pens it All / Meg Farr Design / Hillary Mueller Art / This entire post by Elise Joy Blaha is a gold mine of printables

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The gift for the new homeowner

Speaking of art, I came up with a great way to create art for free on our phone. There is an app I use called Waterlogue. It takes any photo and makes it look like a watercolor print. I did this from a photo of our cabin in Colorado, and a giant size hangs in our living room. But I also printed smaller versions for family members. What I found last year was this works great with a photograph of someone’s home. There are many artists who will create a painting of your home, and they are gorgeous. But I was surprised by how lovely the photos looked when I put them into the waterlogue app. I found photos of my friend’s home on the internet (hello stalker!) and ran them through the app. It makes for a great gift, especially for someone just moving into a new home. This year of all years we have grown more attached to our homes than ever before. What better way to honor them than with a piece of (free) art. Add the poster hanger from above and you are set!

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The gift for the Grandparents

(Spoiler Alert: if you are one of the grandparents in my family, SKIP AHEAD!)

I am always in search of a great gift for the Grandparents that I haven’t already done or that isn’t too cheesy. This idea came from my friend Karen when I sent out a request for ideas. See how inspiration can strike when you share?

Seeing as we are distant from our families for a bit longer this year, we wanted more ideas to make Zoom conversions special. This year for Christmas, each grandparent will receive a book picked out by the kids to read to them. From the big kids we found a couple of fun books involving grandparents, Grandpa’s Great Escape and A Long Way from Chicago, as well as favorites like Nancy Drew and the new Stories from Wayside School. From Leo, we are sending this collection of Elephant and Piggie books along with this new edition to the “How to” series for kids we love called How to Read to A Grandparent. I’m not at all sure how he will do but he does love books so I am hoping we have a little success.

In addition to the books, we included photo bookmarks of the kids, because there are never enough pictures of the grandchildren.

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The gift for the kids who don’t need any more stuff

Two years ago when looking for a “Big gift” for the kids, I was feeling overwhelmed by “stuff.” What I knew we really wanted was more quality time. But how do you wrap that up for a 3 year old and 6 year old? Balloons!

I wrote down on small slips of paper 20 different ideas for fun things we could do as a family, most of which I knew we would be doing anyway. Then I rolled up the paper, stuck it into a balloon and blew up the balloons. When the kids opened the present, first they opened calendars for each of them, which was supposed to be the simple gift but that ended up being a very exciting joy. Then we had them close their eyes and dumped the giant collection of balloons on top of them. Oh the joy! We had a great time popping each balloon and reading about all the fun ideas we could do together this year. Confession time: we didn’t do everything. But that wasn’t the point. The exciting part was dreaming up all the ways time together is a gift. It is cheesy, but they loved it. 

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The gift for the kids that go through paper faster than toilet paper

This was the year for many things, or very little depending on how you look at it, but one I will remember is the year my kids became passionate about drawing. We have gone through more paper and markers than I care to count. And while I am sick of picking up all of it, I am not sick of the creativity that comes from it. 

A friend of mine, Alicia, also has a passionate artist in her house and she created a great activity to spark his creativity. It’s called the “Bowl Game” inspired by Adrienne Hedger, although I have also seen it done by Carson Ellis. She made a list of adjectives, nouns, and actions, cut them out, placed each category in a bowl, and then pulls one paper from each bowl to create an idea for drawing. For instance, “confused stink bug ice skating” or “bright pencil sneezing continuously.” I plan on wrapping this up with some paper and new markers or pencils (things we need anyway) as a gift that sparks creativity, with little to no cost to me. I think they will love it and I can’t wait to see their creations. I might have to get in on this too!

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I hope this list brings some inspiration and joy to you this year, or the next! If you love getting a regular dose of inspiration and joy, be sure to sign up for my Raise & Shine Letter. It comes out mid month-ish, which means the next one should be coming to your inbox soon-ish (ish is my favorite marker of time) so don’t wait!