Go ahead. Throw shade at the Christmas decorations popping up the day afternoon Halloween (tiny glittery bottle trees mean nothing to you.) Bah humbug at your computer screen when you see your “friends” posting pre-maturely decorated trees (you thought you knew them better.) Cover your eyes when you hear that seasonally festive music pumping through the speakers of your radio (No it is NOT beginning to look a lot like Christmas.) 

But trust me on this one. If you plan on using the library to complete your Advent book calendar, then you are going to want to get ahead of the game and reserve those books before your Christmas heart is ready or you will end up with the Christmas story leftovers and that’s enough to dash even the No- Christmas-Until-After-Thanksgiving Loyalist’s Christmas spirits this season.  (For the record. I am not one of those people. I respect all beliefs and traditions. But while I fight it, Christmas brings me joy no matter when I see it and I am definitely guilty of pressing play on some holiday playlists while working on these posts.)

(Additional note...If you need a refresher on what an Advent Book Calendar is, check out this post from two years back.)

With that information covered, here are some new additions to our Advent Book Calendar, including one I just found today and cried in the middle of the book store. That’s a sign of a good Christmas book right there. Get your name on these books at your local library, quick!

Red and Lulu - I thought the story would be good. Two cardinals and their tree that becomes the one standing in Rockefelller Plaza. But I had no idea the story would make me cry, not for sadness but because of such a sweet friendship and love of Christmas. I adore this. A new favorite for years to come. And the house in the story looks just like mine!

The Little Reindeer - A sweet story about a girl looking for a reindeer by listening for the Jingle-Jingle of the bells. The illustrations are magical, especially with little cutouts and silver lining. I imagine this would be fun to read with a set of jingle bells to add to the magic. 

Pick a Pine Tree - This is a simple story about picking a Christmas tree and decorating it. But it's the illustrations that drew me in. They have a mid-century modern look to them and I am a sucker for that look. You won't mind reading this again and again just to stare at all those pretty pictures.

Bear Stays Up for Christmas - I love the books in Karma Wilson's series of this bear and his friends, and this one does not disappoint. In an effort to stay up, the bear discovers the joy of giving. Your little cubs will want to stay up with this kind bear and his friends!

Mortimer's Christmas Manger - I laughed and cried with this one! A little mouse thinks he has found a perfect place to sleep in the nativity set, until he keeps returning to the manger only to find the baby placed back inside, where he wants to sleep! Imagine his surprise when he discovers who this little baby is. Such a sweet little mouse, it almost makes me like mice. Almost.

Christmas in the Big Woods -  I am very excited to dig into the Little House on the Prairie Book Series with my kids since moving to Minnesota. This tells one of the Christmas stories in a picture book making it accessible to a younger audience. And this story is so dear as the simplicity of the time is such a wonderful lesson. 

I had so much fun putting these together last year that I wanted to do round two. To learn more about this check out the original post about Toy and Book gifting.

Here are a few of my favorite books from this year and some darling toys to go along with them.

Over and Under the Pond and Otter Finger Puppet

I included these little finger puppets in last year's gift guide and I just couldn't resist doing it again. They are so cute! I want one too! Maybe the alpaca! 

Also this book is darling and there are others in the series I am excited about. 

Thelma the Unicorn or Extra Yarn or Knit Together and Yarn Unicorn Craft

This pairing comes with three different book pics. I originally chose the unicorn book because unicorns are definitely having a moment and we loved this book. But then when I saw this unicorn craft using yarn I immediately remembered these two other books we read this year both about yarn and both might be on my top 10 favorite children's books (I'm going to need to work on that one later this year!) All three books have wonderful messages for children and that yarn craft looks like such a fun together activity. 

All About Cars and Lego Duplos Cars and Trucks

This has been my most favorite book to gift this year. The book is just filled with all sorts of vehicles, some real, but mostly made up. Like a POOP CAR! A POOP CAR! What kid doesn't like a POOP CAR! It is such a fun book for kids to flip through on their own and find their favorite vehicles. A perfect one to NOT have to always read to them. My favorite kind! Also, I think these Duplo cars would be a fun pairing because kids can then make up vehicles of their own. Mix and match and create the next great car! I love open ended play like this. 

World Pizza and Pizza Felt Kit

I have not read this book yet but the description just looked too great to pass up, especially since we are a big pizza family. We do have this pizza felt kit and the kids still have lots of fun with it creating their own pizza creations. 

The Mermaid and Mermaid Peg Doll Craft

Another book I have not read yet as it has just come out. But it is a new Jan Brett book! And it's about Mermaids! So you can't go wrong with that. And I love all the little craft kits that Seedling puts together. This little Mermaid Peg Doll looks like a fun and easy craft for your little one and something they can play with the book. Craft and Book pairings are so natural. 

There is so much joy in giving. 

We make the lists. We curate the gifts. We carefully wrap the boxes. And we wait with glee as we watch the givee unwrap that carefully chosen just right for them present.

I find it to be one of my top favorite joys of the holiday season, to show my people love by gifting something I think they will love. 

But when it comes to children at least, gifting means stuff. 

Children have a lot of stuff.

This is not news to you. In fact, you don’t even need children to feel like you already have lots of stuff. Everyone from Marie Kondo to Apartment Therapy will remind you that you have too much stuff. And that stuff is not making you any happier. 

I am not here to tell you how to be a minimalist. If you see behind any of my closets or drawers you would know I was a phony. 

But I do have experience living in smaller spaces and moving frequently over the entirety of my parenting to have developed a strong need to careful curate the things that come in and out of this house for my children. Actually, let me correct that, I do not always have control over the things that come in but I do have control over how we use it and how long it stays. 

I know I am not alone in this struggle. We want to give the gift of joy to our children at the holidays. We want to see their faces light up when they rip open the paper. We want to sit on the couch with baileys in our coffee on Christmas morning and Bing Crosby crooning in the background with the twinkle lights aglow over our peacefully contented children playing ever so gratefully with the carefully chosen gifts they are blessed to have.

Is that too much to ask?!

When faced with the challenge of limiting stuff at the holidays, the idea of Experience Gifts is often thrown out there. I love the idea and have been practicing it for years. Mike and I rarely give presents to one another instead choosing special date nights to celebrate. I often request museum memberships for the kids from grandparents, especially because this is a gift for me as much as for them. And we plan all year ways to have fun as a family that doesn't necessarily mean adding to the pile of objects that must be reorganized at the end of every night. 

But here is the conundrum with gifting experiences particularly for little ones. You lose some of that magical joy of immediate gratification. My kids have never acknowledged the museum pass gift when it is opened. Unless it was an expereince happening that very day, the joy of the future possiblity is lost on them. And when the response is lack luster at gift opening, it kind of leaves everyone disappointed. 

But what if there was a way for everyone to enjoy the gifting of experiences? What if the children opening the gifts could have an immediate tangible experience but not add too much to the pile of stuff. 

But most importantly, what if we could all have an experience that goes beyond the play of the child with the toy and into a more meaningful and shared experience for all?

Sound like some Christmas Hallmark Channel Magic?

I think what I have learned with kids, and myself, is that in learning and playing, having something to hold is very precious. It expands the learning. It brings it to life. And it also reminds them of the experience even after the experience is gone.

So today I want to share some fun ways to give the gift of experience so that little ones can be just as excited on Christmas morning as they are with the experience later to come. This is a similar concept to my Book and Toy pairings. I could call it an Experience and Toy pairing but really its an Experience and Expansion Gift pairing. I like fancy labels.

I will list some of my favorite Experience Gifts and then list some Expansion Gift ideas. I am listing them separately because many can be mixed and matched for a number of different experiences. It's like a choose your own adventure for gifting! What fun!

Experience Gift Ideas 

Museum Membership Gifts

Above all other experience gifts, these are my favorites. We have received a membership to the Local Children's Museum since Caroline was only 4 months old and it has paid off every single time. To know you can pop in and pop out of a museum at any time with a little one is a precious gift. There are endless amounts of learning experiences at museums. Kids never bore of it. And if the day isn't going well, I never have to feel bad about leaving too early because we can always come back another day. Guilt-free. Now that is a gift for a parent right there. 

Children's Museums are great memberships but so are Zoos, Art Museums, History Museums, etc. You would be surprised about the fantastic programming offered to little ones and big people alike. And Memberships go to further expand the museums educational experiences for all. Win win win all around. 

Another membership to look into if your family is less of a museum type person and more the thrilling rides type person is a membership to an amusement park. Often this means waiting until the summer months but it is something to consider maybe for older kids who can handle the anticipation for that long.

Family Trips

As kids, my parents occasionally gifted us a post Christmas trip to Kansas City to stay at the plaza in a fancy hotel or go to a show. As kids, the idea of swimming in the winter and seeing lights of the big city was as much fun for us as the nice dinner out was for our parents. There was something so special about the big city adventure and the anticipation of it was something to look forward to long after gifts were gone. 

Obviously trips to Disney are always high on the Family Trip lists but it doesn't have to be that extravagant. Camping trips are fun to plan for. Visits to the lake or beach that are out of the ordinary routine are also special. Really, if you make a big deal about a trip, your child will get excited about it too. And if it is something you have been saving your money for, you want to remind them why it is exciting. 

Day Date

Christmas is a perfect time to choose an extra special experience just for the day. A performance at a local theatre, a special holiday exhibit, a sporting event can be a special thing to plan for. But you don't need a special event to make a day date. Go bowling, go to a movie, go ice skating. Let them pick a special place to have dinner. Even a fancy ice cream trip can feel important. Whatever you pick, when you call it a date, they know this is special. I think these are great gift ideas for children one on one with a parent or grandparent or other family member. Special "Just Me" adventures are forever memorable. 

Expansion Gifts

Books

No surprise here that I would recommend books. But as I have said countless times before, a book is a learning bridge from imagination to reality.

For Museum Memberships, these are fun books talking about exploring a Museum. Bonus points if your museum membership is in the book!

Going on a road trip? There are a few here to get you in the mood. 

You Can't Take A Balloon into the Metropolitan Museum, Museum Trip, Are We There, Yeti?, Are We There Yet?

Headed somewhere specific? There's a book for that! Look it up. I'm sure something has been written. We have always tried to find books on a particular place to get the kids excited and recognizing familiar sites. 

Explorer Gifts

These are great gifts paired with adventure experiences as well as museum memberships. Leave them a note that they are becoming a scientific explorer and they are doing research on new lands. 

A notebook for recording all the fun, a magnifying glass or binoculars for hunting treasures, and a disposable camera for documentation. Separate or together, they make a scientist out of your child no matter the adventure you have planned.

Something to Wear

They might fight you every morning to get dressed in something other than their red sweatpants and dinosaur t-shirt, but when it comes to special ocassions, with the right accessory, kids really enjoy getting dressed up. They see you getting fancy for a date, so why not get them something for a special day date.

Obviously a new outfit would be fun. But I like the idea of a fun accessory like these adorable Christmas hair clips or those two cute for words Lego bow ties. 

Practical GIfts

While practical gifts are not fun to open, the silliness of opening something that suggests a potential experience makes the gifting that much more fun. 

Once for my cousin we all went in together to purchase a summer pass to an amusement park. He opened up sunscreen, sunglasses, flip flops, etc. from each of us until the final gift which was the pass. Children may not get it right away but they will have fun anyway. 

I jokingly told my sister she should just get my kids snacks for Christmas. But honestly, this is not as crazy as you think. What kid doesn't love snacks? Obviously you wouldn't just wrap up a bag of chips. But if you were planning a long road trip, you could pack up all their favorite snacks and call it their emergency food source. It might confuse them until you explain the adventure you have planned for them. Or wrap up fun marshmallows and hot cocoa to have after a cold outdoor adventure. Have a local drive thru movie theatre? Gift a bunch of popcorn and movie candy. Yummy food can make anyone smile. 

Share the Memories

Just one final thought here. I hadn't given much thought to this in the past but I recently read this and felt it was such a valuable lesson. If gifting joy is what we are after for both the children and the gift giver, remember to make this a memory you can share. If the experience is something to do together, document the moment with pictures. Write down the story of your day together. Print pictures in a small album. And if this is an experience the giver may not be present for, like a membership, then remember to send pictures throughout the year about the fun. Getting a picture of someone enjoying your gift is like watching them open it all over again. What a joy to experience together, no matter the distance. I"m going to remember this and put this into practice this year as experiences are gifted to my children.